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About TheAllowedDamaged

Originally this blog was about society and how there is a lot to be changed. I am going to keep my older writing for now. the new point is to respond to those who think just because the majority of men feel they are not harmed they can ignore the pain of those who are. Society has shown that it will continue to only care for the opinions of those that fit the status quo instead of showing concern for the many who are proof of how wrong they are.

Hate to say this, but you’re the Minority…..

That’s what one of my rideshare passengers said to me tonight after stating I was one of millions of men harmed by circumcision.

The conversation started out while we were talking about medical breakthroughs and one of the passengers stated that kids today will probably live to be 150. Another passenger within the group of four made mention that skin care is getting better as well. At this point I said that some methods are unethical I feel. They asked me to elaborate, which of course I did. I told them about the fibroblasts and how they are harvested from babies to make high end facial creams used by celebrities. They thought I was talking about embryos, or placentas. I corrected them and went on to talk about how I think this is why circumcision is still being pushed. I made mention of my campaign to which after explaining how I think all children should be protected from being altered.

When I said boys and intersex deserve protection too, one passenger asked why boys. I even talked about how the majority of males worldwide are intact and dont have the issues our medical industry states we would she basically scoffed and asked if that meant that it doesnt matter about being cut or not. She wanted cut to be the best, stating parents are looking out for the best for their children. I asked then why cant they do that to their daughters? I told her about type 4 being less than what happens to boys, that it’s illegal still. She always came back to the myths of hygiene and cleanliness. After a debate which the woman (the main passenger asking about why I’m against circumcision) said she loved the debate.

As she got out, she said I was getting 5 stars still even though I’m wrong. She said the others agreed with her even though a could of times I was supported by the others by them stating they heard about stats I gave.

It almost always comes to them pointing out that I am part of the minority harmed, #TheAllowedDamaged. Even going as far as to say that us being harmed doesn’t matter.


It’s a miracle…

I was able to finally get a old laptop of mine to perform a clean install of Windows which fixed the problems I had with it, at least it seems that way so far. I am dedicating this laptop to the fight for equal protection for boys. I still need some funding so I can get the research materials, visual aides and access to paid academic sites.

I have already set it up and will have it with me while I work. More importantly I have already put ebook versions of some material i want to study on it.

I’m excited about this project and looking forward to working hard on it.

Let’s see how this goes…..

A couple of days ago I decided that I’m going to start on my quasi new years resolution to get my local government to extend their protection girls have concerning genital mutilation to boys. I really want to impress and make sure that I have all the information they could ask for. I had decided to make a GoFundMe campaign. Now I have a little bit of a disdain for GFM as it allows for parents to make campaigns for getting their sons circumcised. In a way I feel if I can get the protections granted by using GFM it’s a better victory.

Currently I am trying to get a old laptop to work, it’s being stubborn and will not even allow me to do a clean install. I want to have a laptop dedicated to fighting for the protection of boys. In the campaign I am asking for about $5k to help. If I can not get the old laptop to work I will need a cheap new one. I’m also going to need reference materials like medical texts, anatomical models and access to paid academic sites. As I said I want to impress. I also would like to advertise the campaign by making a QR code to stick on bulletin boards and other high traffic areas.

I’m debating on if I should explain my own harm from circumcision because i don’t know if that will turn people off more than the subject already might.

I just shared a article the other day on Facebook about how protections are being pushed more for girls and intersex children as they can not consent to the genital cutting. It was interesting the title did not include boys as not being able to consent either. This is the mentality I am going to be fighting against.

I have already started contacting the state legislature about getting a printed copy of the FGM law, so far it’s been a week and no answer. I will give it one more and than maybe instead of a email I will call. Anyway here is the campaign link, tell me what you think and what I should add or take away.

27 States ban FGM, 0 ban MGM

It’s been almost 2 months since a federal judge in Michigan stated that the federal law making FGM illegal is unconstitutional and not in the scope of the federal government to regulate.

On last check I see that 27 states including the one I set up residence in have laws banning the practice. Most, if not all state that ritual and cultural reasons are illegal. Meaning religious cutting as well. To me this means that the laws are still sexist and discriminatory and here is why: 1) to protect one gender from being cut to fit social standards within a culture, but allow another culture to do the same to another gender is sexism 2) by allowing a law to state that one religion can not perform a ritualistic cut while at the same time justifying it for another is absolute discrimination and shows favoritism towards certain religions. Both of these show a serious lack of equality, one that is bad is no equal protection for boys and the other personally the equality I would like to see is none being able to perform ritualistic cutting on any children.

I am planning on fighting my state government for equal protections to be extended to boys.

Children when born do not have their religion decided by them yet. We keep arguing that religion is a big part of who you are and that freedom to practice is a right, however the children not having decided for themselves and being cut in their parents religion negates their (the children’s) religious freedom.

American society’s cultural standard of what boys should look like robbed me of my own bodily autonomy. I never have fully owned my body, it was the first thing taken from me. The scar left behind from the healthy tissue amputated a constant reminder I never truly had full control of myself.

Here is a poem of how I feel:

If born female, being cut in the most sensitive, erogenous and intimate of places seen as a travesty. An attack upon a pure being with intent to deprive that which nature grants. Being born male the body is seen as something to be owned, a possession needing to be altered, made incomplete and broken. Something to be molded to fit an puritanical ideal of aesthetics and morality. A morality not of personal choosing, but of forced brutality and barbarity. A scar remains like a shackle to a broken spirit, to remembrance of what was promised by nature, stolen.

Always the wrong time and place…..

As a preface I must share that I am a rideshare driver. It came to me one day this might be a good way to get people aware of issues that need attention.

However as always issues pertaining to boys and men are seen as not important or laughable. I taped this info in my vehicle.

It has been met with laughter, jokes and the occasional person going “seriously?”. When I am asked about it I do speak my mind about it. I give the information I know, most of the time I am met with people telling me they didn’t know any of what I conveyed. Then there are the times I am met with anger because “its cleaner and healthier” according to those who have not really researched it that much or at all. They become an echo of the lies told to them by those who profit from cutting boys. I even had one lady go off on me saying it’s less than what girls go through, again people thinking only of type 3. She refused to listen to me and sarcastically sad sorry about your penis. She was the first time I rated a passenger 1 star, it was because of her attitude and sarcasm where she acted like men could not be hurt and how she raised her voice instead of having a calm conversation.

I had some ask how it has harmed me in such a way that I feel its necessary to protest it, when I tell them in non detailed ways that basically I endure physical pain and damage while being intimate and the damage feels like a knife cutting me they cringe. They never thought about the fact too much skin could be removed.

I’m thinking about doing a social experiment and putting up information about stopping breast cancer, exploitation and sex trafficking, ovarian cancer and some other female centric issues. Who knows my rating may shoot back up to 5, instead of the 4.82 at the time of this writing.

The Silence Is Deafening

On November 20th news broke that a federal judge found U.S. Code 18 Subsection 116 unconstitutional, this law was the one that protected girls from all forms of genital cutting, even for religious and cultural reasons. His reasoning was that the federal government did not have the jurisdiction to make this illegal, that it should be done on the state level.

This ruling was made before a trial that had two Muslim doctors being charged with committing FGM as a religious rite. Now it is the state that must try them.

During the first few days there was outrage as the mainstream media covered the news, womens groups also seemed to be outraged. Intactivists were also outraged as this is not the equality we fight for but quite the opposite. We had hoped boys would gain the same protections as girls had unknowingly kept them safe for 21 years. The story slowly faded as did the outrage as 20+ states had legislation in place to keep the protections for girls, boys however are still not protected.

There is still people stating there is no comparisons between the two because they have not cared to get the facts. What was done to the girls, the type of FGM that was the reason for the trial was actually the type that is less harmful than what boys endure daily in this country. The girls were subjected to type 4 where it’s either a drop of blood, a small incision or a scraping that removes tissue less than the size of a grain of rice.

Had the mainstream media kept pushing this information the public might start to realize the hypocritical nature in which they viewed both mutilations in contrast to each other. The public might come to their senses and see that circumcision of infants is in fact mutilation. So they slowly stopped reporting on it, people still refuse to see the similarities, still getting angry when you ask why boys are not protected and look at you with disdain for thinking boys are being harmed.

I plan on writing my state legislature and seeing about gaining protections for boys and girls (I have yet to find out if my state already protects girls). Once I do I will post the information here as to their response. Wish me luck.

Today the 20th of November 2018 is a sad day…

Today is a sad day for it is a day that a judge decided to show how much cutting boys is more important than protecting any child. A judge has just decided to dismiss the charges against a Detroit doctor who was arrested on charges of committing FGM. The reason for the charges being dropped is that he found the federal law which only protects girls from genital mutilation unconstitutional, which it technically is. However instead of stating that protections should be extended to boys so that it was no longer discriminatory to them. The defense lawyers stated that it was a religious practice that was being denied. I’m pretty sure the law also stated religious and cultural reasons were also illegal, I will have to check that again.

The main point though again is that instead of saying the law should be changed to protect all children so that it is no longer unconstitutional, he sided with religion which now puts girls at risk of genital mutilation here in America. At present time there has not been outrage as I do not think many know yet. The sad thing is this was one of my predictions of what would happen with this case. I had high hope this would actually make the protection equal only to be let down by politics again.

Here is a article on the matter: