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About TheAllowedDamaged

Originally this blog was about society and how there is a lot to be changed. I am going to keep my older writing for now. the new point is to respond to those who think just because the majority of men feel they are not harmed they can ignore the pain of those who are. Society has shown that it will continue to only care for the opinions of those that fit the status quo instead of showing concern for the many who are proof of how wrong they are.

Always the wrong time and place…..

As a preface I must share that I am a rideshare driver. It came to me one day this might be a good way to get people aware of issues that need attention.

However as always issues pertaining to boys and men are seen as not important or laughable. I taped this info in my vehicle.

It has been met with laughter, jokes and the occasional person going “seriously?”. When I am asked about it I do speak my mind about it. I give the information I know, most of the time I am met with people telling me they didn’t know any of what I conveyed. Then there are the times I am met with anger because “its cleaner and healthier” according to those who have not really researched it that much or at all. They become an echo of the lies told to them by those who profit from cutting boys. I even had one lady go off on me saying it’s less than what girls go through, again people thinking only of type 3. She refused to listen to me and sarcastically sad sorry about your penis. She was the first time I rated a passenger 1 star, it was because of her attitude and sarcasm where she acted like men could not be hurt and how she raised her voice instead of having a calm conversation.

I had some ask how it has harmed me in such a way that I feel its necessary to protest it, when I tell them in non detailed ways that basically I endure physical pain and damage while being intimate and the damage feels like a knife cutting me they cringe. They never thought about the fact too much skin could be removed.

I’m thinking about doing a social experiment and putting up information about stopping breast cancer, exploitation and sex trafficking, ovarian cancer and some other female centric issues. Who knows my rating may shoot back up to 5, instead of the 4.82 at the time of this writing.


The Silence Is Deafening

On November 20th news broke that a federal judge found U.S. Code 18 Subsection 116 unconstitutional, this law was the one that protected girls from all forms of genital cutting, even for religious and cultural reasons. His reasoning was that the federal government did not have the jurisdiction to make this illegal, that it should be done on the state level.

This ruling was made before a trial that had two Muslim doctors being charged with committing FGM as a religious rite. Now it is the state that must try them.

During the first few days there was outrage as the mainstream media covered the news, womens groups also seemed to be outraged. Intactivists were also outraged as this is not the equality we fight for but quite the opposite. We had hoped boys would gain the same protections as girls had unknowingly kept them safe for 21 years. The story slowly faded as did the outrage as 20+ states had legislation in place to keep the protections for girls, boys however are still not protected.

There is still people stating there is no comparisons between the two because they have not cared to get the facts. What was done to the girls, the type of FGM that was the reason for the trial was actually the type that is less harmful than what boys endure daily in this country. The girls were subjected to type 4 where it’s either a drop of blood, a small incision or a scraping that removes tissue less than the size of a grain of rice.

Had the mainstream media kept pushing this information the public might start to realize the hypocritical nature in which they viewed both mutilations in contrast to each other. The public might come to their senses and see that circumcision of infants is in fact mutilation. So they slowly stopped reporting on it, people still refuse to see the similarities, still getting angry when you ask why boys are not protected and look at you with disdain for thinking boys are being harmed.

I plan on writing my state legislature and seeing about gaining protections for boys and girls (I have yet to find out if my state already protects girls). Once I do I will post the information here as to their response. Wish me luck.

Today the 20th of November 2018 is a sad day…

Today is a sad day for it is a day that a judge decided to show how much cutting boys is more important than protecting any child. A judge has just decided to dismiss the charges against a Detroit doctor who was arrested on charges of committing FGM. The reason for the charges being dropped is that he found the federal law which only protects girls from genital mutilation unconstitutional, which it technically is. However instead of stating that protections should be extended to boys so that it was no longer discriminatory to them. The defense lawyers stated that it was a religious practice that was being denied. I’m pretty sure the law also stated religious and cultural reasons were also illegal, I will have to check that again.

The main point though again is that instead of saying the law should be changed to protect all children so that it is no longer unconstitutional, he sided with religion which now puts girls at risk of genital mutilation here in America. At present time there has not been outrage as I do not think many know yet. The sad thing is this was one of my predictions of what would happen with this case. I had high hope this would actually make the protection equal only to be let down by politics again.

Here is a article on the matter:

Pain and Betrayal Welcomed Us


Entering into the world, darkness turns to light. Muffled sounds becoming clearer as the emergence is finished. No longer bound inside the body of another, now ready to learn and grow. Peacefulness is short lived as from my mother I am taken. In a new room to a plastic surface I am laid. I sense something is not right as my arms and legs are now secured by straps. I feel air rush over my groin as my covering is removed. I scream out in protest but only to be ignored. I feel a sharp pain, then another as they prep me. Numbness comes over but does not fully take hold. As I scream, placed into my mouth in an attempt to silence me a gag coated with sugar. There it is a sharp slice has been made to the area where the numbing had not made. Tears roll down the sides of my face, my hands clenched in terror my knuckles turning white. Why, why is this being done to me? I feel myself slipping into an unnatural calm, this is not sleep. I am in shock unable to further show my rage at what has been done. Returned now to the room from which I was taken faces welcome me back in false understanding of my recent torment. It is in this moment trust has been lost. As a male by birth welcomed by pain and betrayal.

FGM is being fought, while MGM is being justified.

The illogical divide on what should and is not to be considered genital mutilation is disheartening. When the world fights to end one because of the damage and harm it causes while ignoring the same in the other makes me scratch my head. Why is one inherently worse than the other. Now don’t get me wrong I know that type 3 for females is the most abhorrent type out there to my knowledge, but hear me out. Other than that there are comparisons that can be made between them and MGM. Both are forced upon children, both take sensation and pleasure away, both are said to have benefits, both are said to be for religion or cultural standards and both are forms of control.

Most who argue against FGM argue because they say it is to deny sexual pleasure to the female, by that logic then it reduces men sexual pleasure as well. Sadly people dismiss this and states it does not reduce any pleasure. Again logic would dictate that the amputation of nerve enriched tissue, the loss of that tissue take sensitivity away.

Here in the United States religious freedom is considered very important to ones self, children when born are supposed to have all the freedoms imbued upon them and this should include religious freedom. However parents will mark their children in their religion, not the child as they have not been able to decide for themselves yet. Where am I going with this you ask? Well there is a law here in the States that protects girls from ALL forms of cutting even for religious and cultural reasons. Boys are still forced to undergo religious and cultural cutting because if they were included, the law would not have been passed. Society decided long ago that boys need not be be protected. We are taught at young ages to be tough and to be as if nothing hurts us. This is part of why I believe society does not see it as the same when it comes to protection. Society has been conditioned over centuries and millennia to protect women at all costs, bot not males. Women were seen as weak and fragile so they needed the protections. Men on the other hand are told to suck it up and get over anything that we see as being harmful to us.

It is seen as a human rights violation when a girl is cut, but not when a boy is. This to me makes it clear that society sees males as not important enough to be treated in the same manner. Why else would there be such outrage about FGM, while there is little care for the human rights of boys?

There are a handful of groups working hard to shine a light on the hypocrisy of the United States and who they feel should be protected. One such group is the Bloodstained Men, who protest across the nation and upload their videos to YouTube. I have protested with them and plan on doing more in the future. Another is YourWholeBaby which gives out information online about MGM, going into detail about everything you could want to know including the care of an intact infant. I plan on making entries about them in the future with links available so you can check them out.

As for now I am #TheAllowedDamaged and never would I have consented.

Aesthetically damaged

The obsession for aesthetics has caused many males issues, except it was not their choice. Society has pushed the “cut” look so much that it has become the standard. American media constantly portrays the natural male phallus as dirty, disgusting and undesirable. It has become so interwoven with unpleasantness that mothers constantly on social media shame men who are unaltered.

They go as far as while explaining why they are opting for it for their sons to explain they would never perform oral on a man left natural, by getting their son cut they are “ensuring” he will never have that problem.

They impose their sexual preference upon their own children and believe that he will find a partner as shallow as she is. I say shallow because any man who has made a comment negatively about a womans body has been told he is being shallow. There are women who would scold anyone who would suggest altering their body to fit his desire, yet there are mothers who are preemptively altering their sons for just this reason for the sons future partner. Why is this acceptable?

These women often have others backing them up after being influenced for years to believe what should be an acceptable looking penis. These are probably the same women that celebrate all the different shapes of labia. There are art projects to the different labia of women, large and small, thick and thin. There are pictures painting labia as flowers blooming while critiques of the foreskin are comparing it to images of an anteater, turtle neck, elephant trunk and anything else that erodes the idea of appeal. It is often shown in relation to feminine power. Foreskin however in America has become synonymous with ugliness and shame.

The double standards of what is acceptable for genitalia in way of looks if very telling. The sexuality of women has become very celebrated as of late while male sexuality has been demonized.

Fathers have become complacent. Remembering back to their teenage years they remember how difficult and awkward sexual relations were back then. They in turn are willing to do anything that might make it easier for their sons, because of the social standard they dare not allow their son anything that might impede in this endeavor. Knowing that the major consensus among the American women is that foreskin is deemed disgusting they opt for it to be amputated. Never having known themselves the many lost nerves within the foreskin, off it goes without second thought.

We injure our sons in a attempt to seek what is considered the desired aesthetic while taking away the desired pleasure.

The Lost among us

This 4th of July when you think about freedom and independence remember those who lost their freedom, the the lives lost at a young age. I am not talking about soldiers, I am talking about baby boys who never were able to see the age of 1 because a unnecessary surgery was forced upon them.

Every year there are a number of boys who die due to circumcision. The hemorrhage and bleed out, or complications like infections setting in.

Whenever I bring up that around 100 die like this each year I am met with a response of “that’s not many” or “that’s not a lot”, let that sink in. How many boys have to die from this before its unacceptable? At what point do we say we have hit the point of concern? What is the number society is willing to accept before it finally realizes it’s not worth the risk for a surgery that is purely cosmetic when done to an infant?

Below is a link about the boys who have died from circumcision, please read and ask why risk it?